Whether you’ve been married a year or a decade, you’ve probably discovered that sex can go stale, no matter how much you love your partner. Keeping sex hot in a monogamous relationship is a challenge—but can you think of a better one to tackle?
As any sex therapist will tell you, there really are differences between men and women when it comes to sex. As long as a man is still in good health, he generally needs little priming to get ready for sex. While that doesn’t mean he won’t enjoy foreplay, just the thought of making love is enough to make him ready.
The Chinese observed long ago that when a man's vital energy reserves are drained he tends to feel small like he has lost a piece of himself. With energy loss creativity suffers, vitality plummets, and a man's sense of fulfillment is diminished. The ancient Chinese sexologists viewed semen as life giving and life sustaining. One drop of semen was considered to be equal in power to one hundred drops of blood. If this is truly so, each time a man ejaculates, he suffers a loss of energy on par with donating blood. If this were a sometimes thing, it might not be very significant, but the average American male ejaculates about 5000 times in his lifetime. This equates to roughly four gallons of potent seminal fluid. The message for conscious men is simple: intelligent sexual behavior merits a thoughtful and individualized seminal conservation program.
Romance addicts are in love with romance, i.e. euphoria, intimate rendezvous, passionate sex, erotic fantasies, etc. They do not obsess over one person except for short intervals. To romance addicts the objects of their affection are interchangeable. Anyone they are attracted to is who they want to be with ?the more partners the better. Romance addicts are high on the chemistry of love, wherever they find it, and they move on as soon as the romance wanes.
It is also important to make an effort to spend time with her in order to strengthen your relationship. Surprise your partner with a long, romantic kiss and a suggestion to take a walk together. Make sure you hold hands while you walk and talk. You can also put a blanket on the floor of your bedroom or go to the park to enjoy an intimate picnic together. You can schedule lunch dates once or twice a week. Whether it is going on a spontaneous trip, attending a dancing or yoga class, hiking, walking on a beach, seeing a romantic movie or concert, reading an erotic novel together, housing a party for friends, etc, having fun together is critical for the success of your relationship.